An excellent post from the Village Church on what’s wrong with preachers telling ‘singles’ to grow up and get married.
But singleness is not synonymous with immaturity, and singleness is not inherently problematic. While many singles are immature, the correlation is not direct. Many married men and women are just as immature. By and large I agree with the pastors attempting to engage the culture of “extended adolescence.” I simply disagree with their choice of language. “Grow up and get married” is too simplistic and dangerous.
First off, it sounds too easy. Anyone who wants to be married can simply do so at will?
Isn’t a spouse a gift from the Lord?
Isn’t God sovereign in the distribution of His gifts?
As a 32-year-old single male shepherding in the midst of a large church filled with singles, I know firsthand the sting of such half-truths. Some people are single because they are lazy, fearful, lustful or proud. But some singles are simply single because God, in His infinite wisdom, sovereignty and grace has not granted them a spouse. Singleness is not a curse. If singleness were the universal consequence for our sins, marriage rates would plummet to zero. Marriage is a gift, and all of God’s gifts are graciously undeserved. There are many married men and women mired in sin, and there are many singles pursuing deep holiness.
There is no direct correlation between sin and singleness.
Read the whole post here.