So this is not strictly in line with the rest of this series because this is something you SHOULD say if your friends start dating someone
#6 – Ask about physical boundaries in their relationship
Talk about an awkward conversation right! But what a great way to encourage your friend in their godliness.
I suspect most people don’t want everyone in the world to be around for this convo – so best ask this one when its just the two of you. Encourage them to talk about this with their bf/gf. Also encourage them to have at least one person who they talk openly with about this, and who is willing to hold them accountable to the boundaries they have set.
Once I had a friend of mine give me a piece of paper with specific ‘rules’ her and her bf had set for themselves. At the bottom of the paper was a note for the people they had shared this with which said ‘Please put this somewhere you will see it and remember to pray for us as we seek to be godly in our relationship’ – what a great idea!
Of course if you ask the question you need to be prepared to hold them accountable – which means holding their godliness higher than their friendship.
Why do physical boundaries matter?
It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honourable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. 1 Thessalonians 3:4