Teen Sex by the book

A few months ago Dr Patricia Weerakoon visited our church to talk to parents about talking to their kids about sex and sexuality. Patricia has teamed up with Fervr and launched a new book – Teen Sex By The Book. In keeping with her style this book is an honest (ans at times explicit!) discussion about sex, culture and the countercultural way the Bible calls us to live. It’s written for teens but is also a must read for parents, youth workers and anyone who works with teens.

Here is Patricia talking about one of the many issues addressed in the book – is sexting really sex?

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Are Christians our own worst enemy??

Today I had the privilege of being a part of a Q & A session at a high school Christian lunch time group. On any given week the group is usually about 30 kids. Today it was 45. It’s an unusual group because about half of the 30 regulars are not Christians. Obviously the Christian were out numbered today.

A few months ago the group set up a board in the school asking students to complete the following – “My biggest problem with Christianity is…”

Over the last few months the leader of the lunch time group has set out to address the issues people have. Today’s challenge was to answer the question of what Christianity has to say about homosexuality. It was a tough gig but very worth while I think.

Something that really hit me as I was listening to their objections, was the way they were very quick to attack what the Bible says, without actually knowing what the Bible says. Of course Leviticus was mentioned more times than I could count, but there was a complete ignorance to anything else the Bible has to say about homosexuality, or in fact, any kind of sexuality. There were some genuinely shocked faces when I said the Bible has lots to say about sex.

But I don’t really blame them. I suspect they are repeating the only info they’ve ever heard about the Bible and homosexuality. A week ago I meet with a teenaged Christian girl to think about these same issues. When I asked her “why does the Bible say homosexuality is wrong” she had a hard time answering. Eventually she said “I don’t know, all I know is that the Bible says its wrong”.

I’ll admit I’m kinda thinking out loud, but I feel like this is our fault, for having the wrong conversation for so many years. We need to not talk about the fact that the Bible says its wrong (cause everyone knows that anyway) and instead talk about the presuppositions that sit behind the conversation. For example, some things I noticed that all the students today assumed are – all desire is good, sex is a right for every person, and sexuality is integral to identity. The Bible has a lot to say about these 3 assumptions and without addressing them, anything the Bible says about homosexuality makes no sense.

I think unless we start moving the conversation we are our own worst enemy. What do you think?

John Stott on sexual purity

One of the things that I found hardest to get used to at college was chicks’ chapel. I can’t really explain why – I just found it a bit odd.

But I have grown to really love it. Because there’s not heaps of girls at college 2nd, 3rd and 4th year girls all get to preach at some point which is great. I love being taught by those I study along side of.

For the last 2 weeks Jane Tooher, who is on faculty at college, has preached a 2 part sermon from 1 Thessalonians 4 on sex and sexual purity. Towards the end of part 2 she shared a John Stott quote about sexual purity taught in the Bible and how we respond to it as single people. I thought it was so good that I would share it too.

“We too must accept this apostolic teaching, however hard it may seem, as God’s good purpose both for us and for society. We shall not become a bundle of frustrations and inhibitions if we embrace God’s standard, but only if we rebel against it. Christ’s yoke is easy, provided that we submit to it. It is possible for human sexual energy to be redirected both into affectionate relationships with friends of both sexes and into the loving service of others. Multitudes of Christian singles, both men and women, can testify to this. Alongside a natural loneliness, accompanied sometimes by acute pain, we can find joyful self-fulfilment in the self-giving service of God and other people.” (Stott, The Message of Thessalonians 84-45).